Top 5 Things You’ll Need to Know
by
Lady Rose
1. To Be or not To Be: Marriage or Virginity
The debate concerning the merits of marriage vs. virginity is of great concern to many and has been discussed ad nauseum for the past few centuries. I know, you are sick of it, but entering into a marriage is a big commitment so make sure it’s the path you want to take. We here can assure you that the merits of marriage have been clearly outlined not only by Saint Augustine, but also Pope Nicholas I. If you believe that God created woman from man’s side so she might walk beside him as his companion, and you do not wish a life of solitude, then marriage is the right choice for you.
The debate concerning the merits of marriage vs. virginity is of great concern to many and has been discussed ad nauseum for the past few centuries. I know, you are sick of it, but entering into a marriage is a big commitment so make sure it’s the path you want to take. We here can assure you that the merits of marriage have been clearly outlined not only by Saint Augustine, but also Pope Nicholas I. If you believe that God created woman from man’s side so she might walk beside him as his companion, and you do not wish a life of solitude, then marriage is the right choice for you.
2. Meeting the Perfect Mate: Be Cautious at the Convent
As most of our readers are aware, many of the young noble ladies not yet attached currently reside in convents. Though they are not there to take their vows, but rather to gain knowledge in deportment, it is not in the best taste to remove your chosen bride prior to her return to her family. That being said, there are cases where such a meeting at a convent and elopement thereafter have resulted in very successful marriages.
As most of our readers are aware, many of the young noble ladies not yet attached currently reside in convents. Though they are not there to take their vows, but rather to gain knowledge in deportment, it is not in the best taste to remove your chosen bride prior to her return to her family. That being said, there are cases where such a meeting at a convent and elopement thereafter have resulted in very successful marriages.
We can look at the marriage and life of Saxon queen Mathilda as a prime example. As we all know, Mathilda was residing in the convent of Herford when she and Henry met. Theirs was a true love story, inspiring to any young couple. Indeed, if you are of a mind to find your bride at a convent it is a good idea to follow Henry’s example. You really can’t go wrong if you win over the approval of the Abbess.
3. Becoming Betrothed: What You’ll Need & Who Should be There
The First and most necessary component to a marriage is an agreement between the two individuals who intend to marry. Written proof of this agreement must be present at the betrothal ceremony. This is where you and your intended decide how much the dower gift from groom to bride should be. Yes Sirs, you heard correctly, you must present your betrothed with a gift, and we don’t mean a box of valentine chocolates.
The First and most necessary component to a marriage is an agreement between the two individuals who intend to marry. Written proof of this agreement must be present at the betrothal ceremony. This is where you and your intended decide how much the dower gift from groom to bride should be. Yes Sirs, you heard correctly, you must present your betrothed with a gift, and we don’t mean a box of valentine chocolates.
At the Betrothal ceremony the groom must be ready to present his bride with a ring to signify his vow to join her to him as his wife. Yes this is Different from the dower gift. The vows to marry in the future along with the exchanging of the gifts must be witnessed by invited guests. That would be the friends and family of the two individuals. Note that you must invite the guests, so you may choose whomever you wish. Don’t feel pressured into inviting anyone you don’t want, but make sure you’ve discussed the guest list together before any final decisions are made. Not only will you avoid inviting the wrong guests but you will also be practicing communication, which is a vital component to the success of a marriage.
4. Marriage Blessings: The Sacred Ceremony
Once betrothed, you have to wait a sufficient time before the wedding can occur. This is to ensure that the marriage is indeed being entered into willingly by both parties. Remember; not only is consent sexy, it is also essential for the marriage to be considered legal.
Once betrothed, you have to wait a sufficient time before the wedding can occur. This is to ensure that the marriage is indeed being entered into willingly by both parties. Remember; not only is consent sexy, it is also essential for the marriage to be considered legal.
At the wedding you and your intended will be expected to present offerings to God in the presence of the Priest who will then bless your union. You will receive the blessing and celestial veil before donning crowns and leaving the church. Note that these crowns are the property of the church and must be returned. You really don’t want to be that couple.
5. In-laws: Is Elopement the Choice for You?
For those of you planning to woo your chosen bride away from her convent, elopement may be the best choice. Avoiding your in-laws may not simply be easier for dowry negotiations but necessary for your health. For those of you with a tight budget who can’t afford all the extra fripperies of both ceremonies, never fear. As Pope Nicholas said, consent alone is necessary, so the ceremony can come later.
For those of you planning to woo your chosen bride away from her convent, elopement may be the best choice. Avoiding your in-laws may not simply be easier for dowry negotiations but necessary for your health. For those of you with a tight budget who can’t afford all the extra fripperies of both ceremonies, never fear. As Pope Nicholas said, consent alone is necessary, so the ceremony can come later.
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